Kamasutra 3.1

3.1.1

sa:varnāyām an:anyapūrvāyāṃ śāstrato 'dhigatāyāṃ dharmo 'rthaḥ putrāḥ saṃbandhaḥ pakṣa-vṛddhir an:upaskṛtā((60)) ratiś ca((61)).

When a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance with the precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such an union are: the acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends, and untarnished love. For this reason a man should fix his affections upon a girl who is of good family, whose parents are alive, and who is three years or more younger than himself. She should be born of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well connected, and with many relations and friends. She should also be beautiful, of a good disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails, teeth, ears, eyes, and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to be, and no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly body. The man should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. But at all events, says Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined with others (i.e., no longer a maiden) should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.

3.1.2

tasmāt kanyām abhijanopetāṃ mātā-pitṛmatīṃ tri-varṣāt prabhṛti nyūna-vayasaṃ ślāghyācāre dhanavati pakṣavati kule saṃbandhi-priye saṃbandhibhir ākule prasūtāṃ prabhūta-mātṛ-pitṛ-pakṣāṃ rūpa-śīla-lakṣaṇa-saṃpannām a:nyūnādhikā:vinaṣṭa-danta-nakha- karṇa-keṣākṣi-stanīm a:rogi-prakṛti-śarīrāṃ tathā:vidha eva śrutavāñ śīlayet((62)).

When a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance with the precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such an union are: the acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends, and untarnished love. For this reason a man should fix his affections upon a girl who is of good family, whose parents are alive, and who is three years or more younger than himself. She should be born of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well connected, and with many relations and friends. She should also be beautiful, of a good disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails, teeth, ears, eyes, and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to be, and no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly body. The man should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. But at all events, says Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined with others (i.e., no longer a maiden) should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.

3.1.3

yā gṛhītvā kṛtinam ātmānaṃ manyeta na ca samānair nindyeta tasyāṃ pravṛttir iti ghoṭakamukhaḥ.

When a girl of the same caste, and a virgin, is married in accordance with the precepts of Holy Writ, the results of such an union are: the acquisition of Dharma and Artha, offspring, affinity, increase of friends, and untarnished love. For this reason a man should fix his affections upon a girl who is of good family, whose parents are alive, and who is three years or more younger than himself. She should be born of a highly respectable family, possessed of wealth, well connected, and with many relations and friends. She should also be beautiful, of a good disposition, with lucky marks on her body, and with good hair, nails, teeth, ears, eyes, and breasts, neither more nor less than they ought to be, and no one of them entirely wanting, and not troubled with a sickly body. The man should, of course, also possess these qualities himself. But at all events, says Ghotakamukha, a girl who has been already joined with others (i.e., no longer a maiden) should never be loved, for it would be reproachable to do such a thing.

3.1.4

tasyā varaṇe mātā-pitarau saṃbandhinaś ca prayateran. mitrāṇi ca gṛhīta-vākyāny ubhaya-saṃbaddhāni.

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the faults, both present and future, of all the other men who may wish to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the excellences, ancestral and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother. One of the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the lucky omens and signs, the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl’s mother by telling her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.

3.1.5

tāny anyeṣāṃ varayitṝṇāṃ doṣān pratyakṣān āgamikāṃś ca śrāvayeyuḥ. kaulān pauruṣeyān abhiprāya-saṃvardhakāṃś ca nāyaka-guṇān. viśeṣataś ca kanyā-mātur anukūlāṃs tadātvāyati-yuktān darśayeyuḥ.

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the faults, both present and future, of all the other men who may wish to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the excellences, ancestral and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother. One of the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the lucky omens and signs, the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl’s mother by telling her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.

3.1.6

daiva-cintaka-rūpaś ca śakuna-nimitta-graha-lagna-bala-lakṣaṇa-darśanena nāyakasya bhaviṣyantam artha-saṃyogaṃ kalyāṇam anuvarṇayet.

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the faults, both present and future, of all the other men who may wish to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the excellences, ancestral and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother. One of the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the lucky omens and signs, the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl’s mother by telling her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.

3.1.7

apare punar asyānyato viśiṣṭena kanyā-lābhena kanyā-mātaram unmādayeyuḥ.

Now in order to bring about a marriage with such a girl as described above, the parents and relations of the man should exert themselves, as also such friends on both sides as may be desired to assist in the matter. These friends should bring to the notice of the girl's parents, the faults, both present and future, of all the other men who may wish to marry her, and should at the same time extol even to exaggeration all the excellences, ancestral and paternal, of their friend, so as to endear him to them, and particularly to those that may be liked by the girl's mother. One of the friends should also disguise himself as an astrologer, and declare the future good fortune and wealth of his friend by showing the existence of all the lucky omens and signs, the good influence of planets, the auspicious entrance of the sun into a sign of the Zodiac, propitious stars and fortunate marks on his body. Others again should rouse the jealousy of the girl’s mother by telling her that their friend has a chance of getting from some other quarter even a better girl than hers.

3.1.8

daiva-nimitta-śakunopaśrutīnām ānulomyena kanyāṃ varayed dadyāc ca.

A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words of others are favorable, for, says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any time he likes. A girl who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when sought in marriage, or who is betrothed to another, should not be married. The following also should be avoided.

3.1.9

na yadṛcchayā kevala-mānuṣāyeti ghoṭakamukhaḥ.

A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words of others are favorable, for, says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any time he likes. A girl who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when sought in marriage, or who is betrothed to another, should not be married. The following also should be avoided.

3.1.10

suptāṃ rudatīṃ niṣkrāntāṃ varaṇe parivarjayet.

A girl should be taken as a wife, as also given in marriage, when fortune, signs, omens, and the words of others are favorable, for, says Ghotakamukha, a man should not marry at any time he likes. A girl who is asleep, crying, or gone out of the house when sought in marriage, or who is betrothed to another, should not be married. The following also should be avoided.

3.1.11

a:praśasta-nāmadheyāṃ ca guptāṃ dattāṃ ghonāṃ((63)) pṛṣatām((64)) ṛṣabhāṃ((65)) vinatāṃ vikaṭāṃ((66)) vimuṇḍāṃ((67)) śuci-dūṣitāṃ((68)) sāṃkarikīṃ((69)) rākāṃ((70)) phalinīṃ mitrāṃ svanujāṃ varṣakarīṃ ca varjayet.

One who is kept concealed.

One who has an ill-sounding name.

One who has her nose depressed.

One who has her nostril turned up.

One who is formed like a male.

One who is bent down.

One who has crooked thighs.

One who has a projecting forehead.

One who has a bald head.

One who does not like purity.

One who has been polluted by another.

One who is affected with the Gulma.

One who is disfigured in any way.

One who has fully arrived at puberty.

One who is a friend.

One who is a younger sister.

One who is a Varshakari.

3.1.12

nakṣatrākhyāṃ nadī-nāmnīṃ vṛkṣa-nāmnīṃ ca garhitām. la-kāra-rephopāntāṃ ca varaṇe parivarjayet..

In the same way a girl who is called by the name of one of the twenty-seven stars, or by the name of a tree, or of a river, is considered worthless, as also a girl whose name ends in “r” or “l.” But some authors say that prosperity is gained only by marrying that girl to whom one becomes attached, and that therefore no other girl but the one who is loved should be married by anyone.

3.1.13

yasyāṃ manaś-cakṣor nibandhas tasyām ṛddhiḥ. netarām ādriyeta. ity eke.

In the same way a girl who is called by the name of one of the twenty-seven stars, or by the name of a tree, or of a river, is considered worthless, as also a girl whose name ends in “r” or “l.” But some authors say that prosperity is gained only by marrying that girl to whom one becomes attached, and that therefore no other girl but the one who is loved should be married by anyone.

3.1.14

tasmāt pradāna-samaye kanyām udāra-veṣāṃ sthāpayeyuḥ. aparāhṇikaṃ ca. nityaṃ prāsādhitāyāḥ sakhībhiḥ saha krīḍā. yajña-vivāhādiṣu jana-saṃdrāveṣu prāyatnikaṃ darśanam. tathotsaveṣu ca. paṇya-sa:dharmatvāt.

When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of merchandise. They should also receive with kinds words and signs of friendliness those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them. After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with regard to their daughter’s marriage. On this occasion when the persons have come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say, “Everything will take place at the proper time,” and should not then comply with the request, but should settle the matter later.

3.1.15

varaṇārtham upagatāṃś ca bhadra-darśanān pradakṣiṇa-vācaś ca tat-saṃbandhi-saṅgatān puruṣān maṅgalaiḥ pratigṛhṇīyuḥ.

When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of merchandise. They should also receive with kinds words and signs of friendliness those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them. After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with regard to their daughter’s marriage. On this occasion when the persons have come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say, “Everything will take place at the proper time,” and should not then comply with the request, but should settle the matter later.

3.1.16

kanyāṃ caiṣām alaṃkṛtām anyāpadeśena darśayeyuḥ.

When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of merchandise. They should also receive with kinds words and signs of friendliness those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them. After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with regard to their daughter’s marriage. On this occasion when the persons have come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say, “Everything will take place at the proper time,” and should not then comply with the request, but should settle the matter later.

3.1.17

daivaṃ parīkṣaṇaṃ cāvadhiṃ sthāpayeyuḥ. ā pradāna-niścayāt.

When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of merchandise. They should also receive with kinds words and signs of friendliness those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them. After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with regard to their daughter’s marriage. On this occasion when the persons have come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say, “Everything will take place at the proper time,” and should not then comply with the request, but should settle the matter later.

3.1.18

snānādiṣu niyujyamānā varayitāraḥ sarvaṃ bhaviṣyatīty uktvā na tad-ahar evābhyupagaccheyuḥ.

When a girl becomes marriageable her parents should dress her smartly, and should place her where she can be easily seen by all. Every afternoon, having dressed her and decorated her in a becoming manner, they should send her with her female companions to sports, sacrifices, and marriage ceremonies, and thus show her to advantage in society, because she is a kind of merchandise. They should also receive with kinds words and signs of friendliness those of an auspicious appearance who may come accompanied by their friends and relations for the purpose of marrying their daughter, and under some pretext or other having first dressed her becomingly, should then present her to them. After this they should await the pleasure of fortune, and with this object should appoint a future day on which a determination could be come to with regard to their daughter’s marriage. On this occasion when the persons have come, the parents of the girl should ask them to bathe and dine, and should say, “Everything will take place at the proper time,” and should not then comply with the request, but should settle the matter later.

3.1.19

deśa-pravṛtti-sātmyād vā brāhma-prājāpatyārṣa-daivānām anyatamena vivāhena śāstrataḥ pariṇayet.
iti varaṇavidhānam((71)).

When a girl is thus acquired either according to the custom of the country, or according to his own desire, the man should marry her in accordance with the precepts of the Holy Writ, according to one of the four kinds of marriage.

Thus ends marriage.

There are also some verses on the subject as follows:

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3.1.20

bhavanti cātra ślokāḥ.
samasyādyāḥ saha-krīḍā vivāhāḥ saṅgatāni ca. samānair eva karyāṇi nottamair nāpi vādhamair..

Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But when both the man and the women afford mutual pleasure to each other, and where the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.

3.1.21

kanyāṃ gṛhītvā varteta preṣyavad yatra nāyakaḥ. taṃ vidyād ucca-saṃbandhaṃ parityaktaṃ manasvibhiḥ..

Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But when both the man and the women afford mutual pleasure to each other, and where the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.

3.1.22

svāmivad vicared yatra bāndhavaiḥ svaiḥ puras:kṛtaḥ. a:ślāghyo hīna-saṃbandhaḥ so 'pi sadbhir vinindyate..

Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But when both the man and the women afford mutual pleasure to each other, and where the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.

3.1.23

paraspara-sukhāsvādā krīḍā yatra prayujyate. viśeṣayantī cānyonyaṃ saṃbandhaḥ sa vidhīyate..

Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But when both the man and the women afford mutual pleasure to each other, and where the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.

3.1.24

kṛtvāpi cocca-saṃbandhaṃ paścāj jñātiṣu saṃnamet. na tv eva hīna-saṃbandhaṃ kuryāt sadbhir vininditam((72))..

Amusement in society, such as completing verses begun by others, marriages, and auspicious ceremonies should be carried on neither with superiors, nor inferiors, but with our equals. That should be known as a high connection when a man, after marrying a girl, has to serve her and her relations afterwards like a servant, and such a connection is censured by the good. On the other hand, that reproachable connection, where a man, together with his relations, lords it over his wife, is called a low connection by the wise. But when both the man and the women afford mutual pleasure to each other, and where the relatives on both sides pay respect to one another, such is called a connection in the proper sense of the word. Therefore a man should contract neither a high connection by which he is obliged to bow down afterwards to his kinsmen, nor a low connection, which is universally reprehended by all.

3.1_2

iti śrīvātsyāyanīye kāma-sūtre sāṃprayogike tṛtīye 'dhikaraṇe varaṇa-vidhānaṃ saṃbandha-niścayaś ca prathamo 'dhyāyaḥ.

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section (prakaraṇa)25 kanyā-visrambhaṇa-prakaraṇam..3.2.1 saṃgatayos tri-rātram adhaḥ śayyā brahmacaryaṃ kṣāra-lavaṇa-varjam āhāras tathā saptāhaṃ satūrya-maṅgala-snānaṃ prasādhanaṃ saha-bhojanaṃ ca prekṣā saṃbandhināṃ ca pūjanam. iti sārvavarṇikam.