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And if this man be living at the time with some other woman she should consider well before she acts. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.2](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.2) sa ced avasitārtho vittavān sānurāgaś ca tataḥ saṃdheyaḥ// ### [6.4.3](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.3) anyatra gatas tarkayitavyaḥ/ sa kāryayuktyā ṣaḍvidhaḥ// > Now such a man can only be in one of the six following conditions, viz.: > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.4](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.4) itaḥ svayam apasṛtas tato 'pi svayam evāpasṛtaḥ/ > 1st. He may have left the first woman of his own accord, and may even have left another woman since then. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.5](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.5) itas tataś ca niṣkāsitāpasṛtaḥ/ > 2nd. He may have been driven away from both women. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.6](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.6) itaḥ svayam apasṛtas tato niṣkāsitāpasṛtaḥ/ > 3rd. He may have left the one woman of his own accord, and been driven away by the other. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.7](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.7) itaḥ svayam apasṛtas tatra sthitaḥ/ > 4th. He may have left the one woman of his own accord, and be living with another woman. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.8](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.8) ito niṣkāsitāpasṛtas tataḥ svayam apasṛtaḥ/ > 5th. He may have been driven away from the one woman, and left the other of his own accord. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.9](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.9) ito niṣkāsitāpasṛtas tatra sthitaḥ// > 6th. He may have been driven away by the one woman, and may be living with another. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.10](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.10) itas tataś ca svayam evāpasṛtyopajapati ced ubhayor guṇān apekṣī calabuddhir asaṃdheyaḥ// > (1) Now if the man has left both women of his own accord, he should not be resorted to, on account of the fickleness of nis mind, and his indifference to the excellences of both of them. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.11](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.11) itas tataś ca niṣkāsitāpasṛtaḥ sthirabuddhiḥ/ sa ced anyato bahulabhamānayā niṣkāsitaḥ syāt sasāro 'pi tayā roṣito mamāmarṣād bahu dāsyatīti saṃdheyaḥ// > (2) As regards the man who may have been driven away from both women, if he has been driven away from the last one because the woman could get more money from some other man, then he should be resorted to, for if attached to the first woman he would give her more money through vanity and emulation to spite the other woman. But if he has been driven away by the woman on account of his poverty, or stinginess, he should not then be resorted to. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.12](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.12) niḥsāratayā kadaryatayā vā tyakto na śreyān// ### [6.4.13](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.13) itaḥ svayam apasṛtas tato niṣkāsitāpasṛto yady atiriktam ādau ca dadyāt tataḥ pratigrāhyaḥ// > (3) In the case of the man who may have left the one woman of his own accord, and been driven away by the other, if he agrees to return to the former and give her plenty of money beforehand, then he should be resorted to. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.14](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.14) itaḥ svayam apasṛtya tatra sthita upajapaṃs tarkayitavyaḥ// > (4) In the case of the man who may have left the one woman of his own accord, and be living with another woman, the former (wishing to take up with him again), should first ascertain if he left her in the first instance in the hope of finding some particular excellence in the other woman, and that not having found any such excellence, he was willing to come back to her, and to give her much money on account of his conduct, and on account of his affection still existing for her. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.15](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.15) viśeṣārthī cāgatas tato viśeṣam apaśyann āgantukāmo \[mayi\] māṃ jijñāsitukāmaḥ sa āgatya sānurāgatvād dāsyati/ tasyāṃ vā doṣān dṛṣṭvā mayi bhūyiṣṭhān guṇān adhunā paśyati sa guṇadarśī bhūyiṣṭhaṃ dāsyati// > Or, whether, having discovered many faults in the other woman, he would now see even more excellences in herself than actually exist, and would be prepared to give her much money for these qualities. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.16](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.16) bālo vā naikatradṛṣṭir atisaṃdhānapradhāno vā haridrārāgo vā yat kiṃcanakārī vā ity avetya saṃdadhyān na vā// > Or, lastly, to consider whether he was a weak man, or a man fond of enjoying many women, or one who liked a poor woman, or one who never did anything for the woman that he was with. After maturely considering all these things she should resort to him or not, according to circumstances. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.17](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.17) ito niṣkāsitāpasṛtas tataḥ svayam apasṛta upajapaṃs tarkayitavyaḥ/ > (5) As regards the man who may have been driven away from the one woman, and left the other of his own accord, the former woman (wishing to re-unite with him), should first ascertain whether he still has any affection for her, and would consequently spend much money upon her; or whether, being attached to her excellent qualities, he did not take delight in any other women; or whether, being driven away from her formerly before completely satisfying his sexual desires, he wished to get back to her, so as to be revenged for the injury done to him; or whether he wished to create confidence in her mind, and then take back from her the wealth which she formerly took from him, and finally destroy her; or, lastly, whether he wished first to separate her from her present lover, and then to break away from her himself. If, after considering all these things, she is of opinion that his intentions are really pure and honest, she can re-unite herself with him. But if his mind be at all tainted with evil intentions, he should be avoided. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.18](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.18) anurāgād āgantukāmaḥ sa bahu dāsyati/ mama gunair bhāvito yo 'nyasyāṃ na ramate// ### [6.4.19](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.19) pūrvam ayogena vā mayā niṣkāsitaḥ sa māṃ śīlayitvā vairaṃ niryātayitukāmo dhanam abhiyogād vā mayāsyāpahṛtaṃ tad viśvāsya pratīpam ādātukāmo nirveṣṭukāmo vā māṃ vartamānodbhedayitvā tyaktukāma ity akalyāṇabuddhir asaṃdheyaḥ// ### [6.4.20](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.20) anyathābuddhiḥ kālena lambhayitavyaḥ// ### [6.4.21](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.21) ito niṣkāsitas tatra sthita upajapann etena vyākhyātaḥ// > (6) In the case of the man who may have been driven away by one woman, and be living with another, if the man makes overtures to return to the first one, the courtezan should consider well before she acts, and while the other woman is engaged in attracting him to herself, she should try in her turn (though keeping herself behind the scenes) to gain him over, on the grounds of any of the following considerations, viz.: > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.22](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.22) teṣu upajapatsv anyatra sthitaḥ svayam upajapet// ### [6.4.23](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.23) vyalīkārthaṃ niṣkāsito mayāsāvan yatra gato yatnād ānetavyaḥ/ > 1st. That he was driven away unjustly and for no proper reason, and now that he has gone to another woman, every effort must be used to bring him back to myself. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.24](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.24) itaḥ pravṛttasaṃbhāṣo vā tato bhedam avāpsyati/ > 2nd. That if he were once to converse with me again, he would break away from the other woman. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.25](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.25) \*vartamānasya \*ced arthavighātaṃ kariṣyati/ > 3rd. That the pride of my present lover would be put down by means of the former one. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.26](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.26) arthāgamakālo vāsya/ sthānavṛddhir asya jātā/ labdham anenādhikaraṇam/ dārair viyuktaḥ/ pāratantryād vyāvṛttaḥ/ pitrā bhrātrā vā vibhaktaḥ/ > 4th. That he has become wealthy, has secured a higher position, and holds a place of authority under the King. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana > 5th. That he is separate from his wife. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana > 6th. That he is now independent. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana > 7th. That he lives apart from his father, or brother. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.27](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.27) anena vā pratibaddham anena saṃdhiṃ kṛtvā nāyakaṃ dhaninam avāpsyāmi/ > 8th. That by making peace with him, I shall be able to get hold of a very rich man, who is now prevented from coming to me by my present lover. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.28](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.28) vimānito vā bhāryayā tam eva tasyāṃ vikramayiṣyāmi/ > 9th. That as he is not respected by his wife, I shall now be able to separate him from her. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.29](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.29) asya vā mitraṃ mad dveṣiṇīṃ sapatnīṃ kāmayate tad amunā bhedayiṣyāmi/ > 10th. That the friend of this man loves my rival, who hates me cordially, I shall therefore by this means separate the friend from his mistress. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.30](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.30) calacittatayā vā lāghavam enam āpādayiṣyāmīti// > 11th. And lastly, I shall bring discredit upon him by bringing him back to me, thus showing the fickleness of his mind. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.31](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.31) tasya pīṭhamardādayo mātur dauḥśīlyena nāyikāyāḥ saty apy anurāgevivaśāyāḥ pūrvaṃ niṣkāsanaṃ varṇayeyuḥ/ > When a courtezan is resolved to take up again with a former lover, her Pithamarda and other servants should tell him that his former expulsion from the woman's house was caused by the wickedness of her mother; that the woman loved him just as much as ever at that time, but could not help the occurrence on account of her deference to her mother's will; that she hated the union of her present lover, and disliked him excessively. In addition to this, they should create confidence in his mind by speaking to him of her former love for him, and should allude to the mark of that love that she has ever remembered. This mark of her love should be connected with some kind of pleasure that may have been practiced by him, such as his way of kissing her, or manner of having connection with her. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.32](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.32) vartamānena cākāmāyāḥ saṃsargaṃ vidveṣaṃ ca/ ### [6.4.33](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.33) tasyāś ca sābhijñānaiḥ pūrvānurāgair enaṃ pratyāpayeyuḥ/ ### [6.4.34](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.34) abhijñānaṃ ca tatkṛtopakārasaṃbaddhaṃ syād iti viśīrṇapratisaṃdhānam// > Thus end the ways of bringing about a re-union with a former lover. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.35](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.35) apūrvapūrvasaṃsṛṣṭayoḥ pūrvasaṃsṛṣṭaḥ śreyān/ sa hi viditaśīlo dṛṣṭarāgaś ca sūpacāro bhavatīty ācāryāḥ/ > When a woman has to choose between two lovers, one of whom was formerly united with her, while the other is a stranger, the Acharyas (sages) are of opinion that the first one is preferable, because his disposition and character being already known by previous careful observation, he can be easily pleased and satisfied; but Vatsyayana thinks that a former lover, having already spent a great deal of his wealth, is not able or willing to give much money again, and is not therefore to be relied upon so much as a stranger. Particular cases may however, arise differing from this general rule on account of the different natures of men. > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.36](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.36) pūrvasaṃsṛṣṭaḥ sarvato niṣpīḍitārthatvān nātyartham arthado duḥkhaṃ ca punar viśvāsayitum/ apūrvas tu sukhenānurajyata iti vātsyāyanaḥ/ ### [6.4.37](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.37) tathāpi puruṣaprakṛtito viśeṣaḥ// bhavanti cātra ślokāḥ--- > There are also verses on the subject as follows: > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.38](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.38) anyāṃ bhedayituṃ gamyād anyato gamyam eva vā/ sthitasya copaghātārthaṃ punaḥ saṃdhānam iṣyate// > "Re-union with a former lover may be desirable so as to separate some particular woman from some particular man, or some particular man from some particular woman, or to have a certain effect upon the present lover." > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.39](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.39) bibhetyanyasya saṃyogād vyalīkāni ca nekṣate/ atisaktaḥ pumān yatra bhayād bahu dadāti ca// > "When a man is excessively attached to a woman, he is afraid of her coming into contact with other men; he does not then regard or notice her faults; and he gives her much wealth through fear of her leaving him." > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.40](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.40) asaktam abhinandeta saktaṃ paribhavet tathā/ anyadūtānupāte ca yaḥ syād ativiśāradaḥ// > "A courtezan should be agreeable to the man who is attached to her, and despise the man who does not care for her. If while she is living with one man, a messenger comes to her from some other man, she may either refuse to listen to any negotiations on his part, or appoint a fixed time for him to visit her, but she should not leave the man who may be living with her and who may be attached to her." > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ### [6.4.41](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.41) tatropayāyinaṃ pūrvaṃ nārī kālena yojayet/ bhavec cācchinnasaṃdhānā na ca saktaṃ parityajet//(yugmam) ### [6.4.42](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.42) saktaṃ tu vaśinaṃ nārī saṃbhāṣyāpy anyato vrajet/ tataś cārtham upādāya saktam evānurañjayet// ### [6.4.43](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4.43) āyatiṃ prasamīkṣyādau lābhaṃ prītiṃ ca puṣkalām/ sauhṛdaṃ pratisaṃdadhyād viśīrṇaṃ strī vicakṣaṇā// > "A wise woman should only renew her connection with a former lover if she is satisfied that good fortune, gain, love, and friendship are likely to be the result of such a re-union." > — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana ## Translations (1) - [The Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana~en-burton.6.4.p2) — Richard Francis Burton & Foster Fitzgerald Arbuthnot 1883, English ## Commentaries (1) - [Jayamaṅgalā](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana!jayamangala.38.1) — Yaśodhara Indrapada, Sanskrit ## Other recensions (1) - [Text edited by Jean Fezas (with notes)](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana*fezas.6.4) — Sanskrit ## Linked texts (1) - [Studies in the Geography of Ancient and Medieval India](https://indike.org/pramana/ins.geography.sircar-1960.c8.s3.58) — D. C. Sircar, English --- Source: [https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4](https://indike.org/pramana/in.niti.kama.vatsyayana.6.4) · Pramāṇa