Rasarnavasudhakara 1.257

1.257

yathā-
try-avasthaiva para-strī syāt prathamaṃ virahonmanāḥ |
tato æbhisārikā bhūtvābhisarantī vrajet svayaṃ ||

As:
Another man's woman can have only three states: first, agitated by separation;
then, having become a woman going to meet her lover, she goes in person to meet him;