Manava Dharmashastra 3.181

3.181

vṛṣalīśabdaḥ strīmātropalakṣaṇārthaḥ, sāmānyena brahmacaryasya vidhānāt | ato brāhmaṇyapi vṛṣalyeva | vṛṣasyati cālayati bhartāramiti yaugikatvaṃ darśayati | ato'yamarthaḥ | bhojanamaṅgīkṛtya tadahaḥ yaḥ striyā saha modate ramate, tayā saha suratasaṃbhogecchayā saṃlāpāliṅganādyapi yo janayati, tasyāyaṃ doṣaḥ | dātuḥ śrāddhasya kartuḥ | yadduṣkṛtaṃ pāpaṃ kiṃcittatsarvaṃ tasmin saṅkrāmati | aniṣṭaphalayogamātramanena nirdiśyate | anyathā yatra dātā puṇyakṛt tatra na kaściddoṣaḥ syāt | 'modanaṃ' harṣotpattiḥ | tena saṃlāpāliṅganādyapi na kartavyam |

Others have held that the ‘neglect’ here stands for non-acceptance of the invitation; according to what has been said in the Śrāddhakalpa—‘one should not fail to accept the invitation of a man free from all blame.’