Manava Dharmashastra 3.44

3.44

brāhmaṇenohyamānayā kṣatriyayā śaro brāhmaṇapāṇiparigṛhīto grāhyaḥ | pāṇigrahaṇasthāne śarasya vidhānāt | pratodo balīvardānāmāyasaḥ kriyate, yena vāhyamānāḥ pīḍyante hastināmivāṅkuśaḥ | vasanasya vastrasya daśā grāhyā śūdrayā | utkṛṣṭajātīyairbrāhmaṇādivarṇervedane vivāhe |

Medhātithi’s commentary (manubhāṣya):
When being wedded by a Brāhmaṇa, ‘the Kṣatriya girl should take hold of’ the arrow held in the hand of the Brāhmaṇa bridegroom; the arrow having been prescribed in place of the ‘taking of the hand.’

‘Goad’—of oxen; it is made of iron, on being driven by which they suffer pain; just like the ‘aṅkuśa’ in the case of. elephants.

‘Of the garment’—of the cloth,—‘the hem should be taken hold of by the Śūdra girl, when being married to men of the Brāhmaṇa and other higher castes. (44)