Manava Dharmashastra 4.217

4.217

pūrvo'viditabhāryājāraḥ | ayaṃ tu viditvā kṣamate na bhāryāyā nigrahaṃ karoti | nāpi tasya aviduṣo'nyatra gṛhājjāriṇo bhojyānnaṃ naiva | strījitāḥ | yeṣāṃ bhāryaiva gṛhe kartrī hantrī ca svayaṃ parijanasya ca neśastena sarvatra tadvaśavartinaḥ | pretānnaṃ maraṇaśauce tatkulīnā abhojyānnāḥ | anirdaśagrahaṇaṃ kālopalakṣaṇārtham | yadvā'nirdaśagrahaṇaṃ pūrvatra svatantramāśaucasambandhināmaviśeṣeṇānnaṃ pratiṣedhati tadiha pretānnakṛtaṃ yasyāpyāśaucaṃ nāsti suhṛdvāndhavādeḥ | kāruṇyāccaturthīśrāddhādipravṛttasya yadannaṃ tanna bhojyam | "daśāhikaṃ nāvamikaṃ caturthīśrāddhamaṣṭamī" ityādirāmāyaṇe varṇitamanyairapi gṛhyakāraiḥ | atuṣṭikaṃ yasminbhujyamāne cittatuṣṭirna bhavet |

Medhātithi’s commentary (manubhāṣya):
The man mentioned in the preceding verse is one who does not know of the presence of his wife’s paramour; while the one mentioned here is one who knows it, and suffers it, and does not check his wife. If the man does not know of the presence of the paramour, who comes from another house, then the food given by such a man is not forbidden.

‘Who are ruled by women,’—those persons in whose house the wife is the sole mistress and dispenser; and who are not master of themselves or of their dependants; who are entirely under the control of their wives.

‘Pretānnam;’—when one is impure, on account of death in his house, the food belonging to the members of his family is forbidden.—‘Ten days have not passed;’—this indicates the period of time.

If the term, ‘anirdaśam’ (of verse 212), is to be taken by itself, as forbidding the food belonging to ‘impure’ persons, then ‘the food belonging to persons in whose house there has been death’ being already included there, the present term would stand for the food of those persons who are directly connected with the impurity; such persons, for instance, as the friends and maternal relations of the dead. Similarly, one shall not eat the food belonging to one who may be engaged in the performance of such rites as the

‘Caturthī-Śrāddha,’ and the like, which is undertaken through sympathy with the person in whose house the death has occurred. Such śrāddhas have been mentioned by the Authors of Gṛhyasūtras, as also in the Rāmāyaṇa, in such passages as—‘The tenth-day Śrāddha, the Ninth-day Śrāddha, the Eighth-day Śrāddha, the Fourth-day Śrāddha, etc.’

‘What is disagreeable;’—by eating which one does not feel happy.—(217)