The Long Āgama Sūtra 16.20

16.20

佛告善生：「美言親復有四事，云何為四？一者善惡斯順，二者有難捨離，三者外有善來密止之，四者見有危事便排濟之，是為美言親四事。敬順親復有四事，云何為四？一者先誑，二者後誑，三者現誑，四者見有小過便加杖之，是為敬順親四事。惡友親復有四事，云何為四？一者飲酒時為友，二者博戱時為友，三者婬逸時為友，四者歌舞時為友，是為惡友親四事。」世尊說此已，復作頌曰：

The Buddha told Sujata, “There are also four things about friends who use beautiful words. What are the four? 1. They follow others whether they are good or bad, 2. abandon them when there are difficulties, 3. are welcoming in public but stop in private, and 4. refuse to help when misfortune strikes. These are the four things about friends who use beautiful words.

“There are four things about friends who follow out of respect. What are the four? 1. They’re deceptive at first, 2. they’re deceptive later, 3. they’re openly deceptive, and 4. they hit you with a cane when they notice a minor fault. These are the four things about friends who follow out of respect.

“There are four things about bad friends. What are the four? 1. They’re friends when drinking alcohol, 2. they’re friends when gambling, 3. they’re friends when engaging in sex, and 4. they’re friends when singing and dancing. These are the four things about bad friends.”

After saying this, the Bhagavān restated it in verse: