四分律比丘戒本 1.p166

1.p166

If a monk go to a layman’s house to eat, and a bhikṣuṇī, present in the same house, point out with her finger, and say: “Give this gruel to such and such an one;” or, “Give this rice to such and such an one,” the monks generally ought to speak to that bhikṣuṇī, and say: “Worthy sister! be still; wait till the monks have done eating.” If there be no monk (who has the courage) to speak thus to that bhikṣuṇī, then the one present (or the monks who are present) ought to confess their fault before the other monks, and say: “Venerable sirs! I have transgressed and brought contempt on the law; I ought not to have done so; I now confess my fault before the venerable brethren.” This is pātidesanīya.