勸發菩提心集 2.96

2.96

For relatives and friends there should be five things: first, seeing wrongdoing or evil, admonish and restrain them privately in a secluded place; second, when there is a slight emergency, rush to rescue and protect them; third, when there is private speech, do not speak of it to others; fourth, revere and praise each other; fifth, share whatever good things one has with them, whether in large or small amounts.