勸發菩提心集 2.96

2.96

親屬朋友當有五事：一見作非惡，私於屏處諫曉呵止；二有小急，當奔赴救護；三有私語，不得為他說；四當相敬歎；五所有好物當多少分與之。

For relatives and friends there should be five things: first, seeing wrongdoing or evil, admonish and restrain them privately in a secluded place; second, when there is a slight emergency, rush to rescue and protect them; third, when there is private speech, do not speak of it to others; fourth, revere and praise each other; fifth, share whatever good things one has with them, whether in large or small amounts.