法苑珠林 51.15

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又四分律。親友意者。要具七法方成親友。一難作能作。二難與能與。三難忍能忍。四密事相告。五互相覆藏。六遭苦不捨。七貧賤不輕。如是七法人能行者。是親善友。應親附之。又莊嚴論佛說偈云。

Furthermore, according to the Dharmaguptaka-vinaya, regarding the mindset of an intimate friend, one must possess seven dharmas before becoming an intimate friend: first, being able to do what is hard to do; second, being able to give what is hard to give; third, being able to endure what is hard to endure; fourth, confiding confidential matters; fifth, concealing each other's secrets; sixth, not abandoning one another in times of distress; seventh, not despising one another in poverty and low station. If a person can practice these seven dharmas, he is an intimate and good friend, and one should draw close to him. Furthermore, in the Mahāyānasūtrālaṃkāra, the Buddha spoke a verse, saying: