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《毘尼母》云：若為在家人作師，教化作福，有五事：一不應檀越舍止住；二不繫心貪利；三為別別說法，布施、持戒、八齋等；四不與共娛樂；五不繫心常欲相見。又五事為檀越尊重恭敬：一非親舊處不往返；二不求形勢，料理檀越家業；三不共竊語，令家中生疑；四不教良時吉日，祠祀鬼神；五不過度所求。入俗家五法：一入時語小；二斂身口意；三攝心卑恭而行；四收攝諸根；五威儀庠序生善。有九事不應俗家坐：一雖為禮拜，心不恭敬；二雖往迎逆，心不慇重；三雖讓令坐，而心不實；四在不恭敬處令坐；五有說法言，心不採錄；六雖聞有德，不信受之；七知有甚多，若求與少；八知有美食，反設麁者；九雖供給與，如市易法。並不應坐，反此便坐。若入聚落，應卑恭慚愧；不著六塵，攝心行之。如高山，懸巖絕險；方寸之處，而足蹈之；念念生怖，更無餘念。臨淵亦爾。如月行世，動手於空，四方無著等（云云）。

The Vinayamātṛkā states: If one acts as a teacher for householders to instruct them in creating merit, there are five matters: first, one should not dwell in the dānapati's house; second, one should not tie one's mind to greedy gain; third, one should expound the Dharma distinctively for them on giving, observing the precepts, the eightfold observance, and so forth; fourth, one should not make merry together with them; fifth, one should not tie one's mind to constantly wishing to see them. There are another five matters for being respected and revered by a dānapati: first, do not travel to and fro where there is no old acquaintance; second, do not seek influence or manage the dānapati's household affairs; third, do not whisper secretly together, causing suspicion in the household; fourth, do not instruct them in auspicious times and lucky days, or making offerings to ghosts and spirits; fifth, do not make excessive demands. Five dharmas for entering a lay household: first, speak softly when entering; second, restrain body, speech, and mind; third, collect the mind, walking humbly and deferentially; fourth, gather the sense faculties; fifth, let deportment be composed and generate goodness. There are nine matters for which one should not sit in a lay household: first, though they prostrate, their mind is not respectful; second, though they come out to welcome, their mind is not earnest; third, though they yield a seat, their mind is not genuine; fourth, they instruct one to sit in an disrespectful place; fifth, when there are words expounding the Dharma, their mind does not adopt them; sixth, though they hear of one's virtue, they do not believe and accept it; seventh, knowing they have much, if one seeks, they give little; eighth, knowing they have fine food, they instead offer coarse food; ninth, though they provide and give, it is like a market transaction. For all of these one should not sit; if the opposite, one may sit. If one enters a village, one should be humble, deferential, and ashamed; not clinging to the six sense objects, walk with a collected mind. Like a high mountain with precipitous, sheer cliffs, with only a square inch of space on which to tread, giving rise to fear at every thought without any other thought. Facing an abyss is also like this. Like the moon traversing the world, moving a hand in empty space, unattached in all four directions, and so forth (and so on).